Stop Feeling So Guilty!

Are you being too hard on yourself?Psychologists say the average person spends approximately two hours a day feeling guilty!And of that about forty five minutes are taken up by a severe dose of feeling guilt.Although guilt feelings are constructive yet a system that works for the better can also malfunction.If in response to your guilt feelings you have taken steps to make amends but the sense of guilt still persists you are probably suffering from false guilt which can slide away into self destruction.

So how can you get rid of guilt feelings? Experts agree it's much like pain.You don't sit there and grit your teeth till your dentures crumble - you do something about it.Here are four steps you can take to deal with your guilt feelings.

Make Amends:Unrelieved guilt can hole your immune system and expose you to illness.Old guilt can connect to your current situation and rattle you time and again.

Disable your 'guilt buttons':The people in your personal community can manipulate you into feelings of guilt.A martyred sigh from a friend can send a tide of guilt feelings washing over you. First identify what or where your guilt feelings are.What are you insecure about?Work?The kids?Your ability to give or give in to your friends?Next, who or what has the power to push those buttons.Decide you are the one who is going to control your life and so take steps and pre emptive measures to take power away from them or it.

Forgive yourself:You have done the best you could at the time.You have done the best you could about being a dad but you aren't superdad nor do you have to make yourself out to be.Let go of the past and press on onto new paths.Mend broken relationships or get back into contact with that old friend.Do something but don't wait for a glacial melt to move on.Forgive yourself.Expecting perfection of yourself is a no win situation.

An ancient remedy:There is an old Chinese tale that a woman once lost the lives of her husband and two sons in a day.Overwhelmed by grief she sat alone in ashes and sackcloth until it dawned on her she might be killing herself too.So she sought out an old seer friend.He told her the best cure he knew of is to go and 'find a mustard seed'.But she has to get that seed from a home or family where no tragedy has befallen.So she went into town and knocked on all doors that would open to her and as she sought her mustard seed she also heard tales of woe and tragedy from each family.As she saw the streams of tears and broken hearts she changed around to being a comforter and forgot her own grief.

Behaviourists say that a practical way to overcome some of life's hang ups is to channel your grief or anger or guilt feelings into a new endeavour.As you populate that goal with all your energies, time and talent you'll soon overwhelm the guilt gremlins that are out to do you in.

Stop Feeling So Guilty!

Vanquish Your Fears!

Cally Rao

Can You Make Money With A Blog ?

With the economy howling the way it is , fear and anguish are rampant. It's one reason why people are increasingly retreating into the world of online marketing . Another is the fatigue from rejection from job searches. One other hound is the tremendous amount of buzz about making money from blogging .But is blogging THE tool for your online web prescence or financial goals ? When you launch your own blog there is of course hardly any barrier .Everyone and anyone can do it. A lot of blog content are based on activities or interests pursued by individuals for pleasure and not primarily to generate income . It may surprise you to know that a blog post today becomes a two week old throwaway newspaper in two days! People reading blog posts often come into or go away with the impression that they are listening in on a conversation or rant rather than reading the writings of a trained , knowledged professional . However thematic blogs , such as , say on credit repair or finance sometimes build good followings. Yet content needs to be refreshed often , otherwise traffic just languishes to death. So is the blogging model to launch an online income flawed ? Generally there is tremendous silence as to and if whether blogging brings home the money. Before you drift into using blogging software to build your primary web prescence you may want to seriously look at whether it lacks or meets what an entrepreneur needs to make money on line.It's your onus to check the details.

Blog Or Build ?

To your success ,

Cally Rao

MAKE A Difference !

Millions saw the apple fall, but Newton asked why [ Bernard Baruch] . Life was meant to be lived ,so don't just sit by the fireside and turn spectator,watching life happen to others or on the screen.Moving onto ever fresh horizons and seeking new perches , seize life! An abundant life doesn't just happen! When he was 18 he bought his first truck. Six years later as he waited impatiently for his trucks contents to be loaded onto a ship in New Jersey , he thought there must be a way to lift the trailer right onto the vessel and save huge labour and time costs. Over two decades as he built his trucking services into one of the largest freight fleets , the idea stayed with him. In 1955 he bought a small tanker company and adapted it's ships to carry cargo in large uniform metal containers. In 1956 he launched his first container ship from off a point close to the pier where Malcolm Maclean had had his brainstorm. A decade later Maclean went international and his containerized shipping changed world trade! If you have your own product or are into services you must learn how to use marketing , advertising and the web to assist your sales efforts. Great marketing always includes an eleventh spice - your intuition and nose to smell out a deal. Are you going to play to win? Or continue trudging the mill? The changes on the web, in your business, and in your market, will only accelerate and take off... and unless you ride the surf you'll be sitting on the beach ..just munching cookies!

To your future ,

Make A Difference

Cally Rao

How To Revive In A Recession

Banks exist to allocate capital to businesses and consumers smoothly.Instead they ladled credit to whoever wanted it.Banks are supposed to make money by skillfully managing the risk of transforming short term debts into long term cash streams ;instead they have been shipwrecked by them.They are supposed to dispense with the flow of cash/credit through economies;instead they ended up blocking it.The costs of this failure have been massive.Last gasp efforts to buoy economies and save financial systems have bent or broken the backbone of public finances.Yet what most experts keep pointing fingers at,is that at a lot of banks not many cared to look at cash flow in the earnings game.
There might be more red ink spilling but what should the entrepreneur do?Hunker down?How do you pick up from the debris of collapsed financial nests and structures?How do you dust off and press on? We can't mistake the mistake of the banks for personal failure!The sun could be setting on them but not on you.The current financial turmoil has illustrated the point that it is vital to develop multiple streams of income.One job is not enough,one investment ain't another twig in nest building,one business won't do.If you are only relying on a salaried income or a single income stream you are setting yourself up to be broke soon and for the most of your life.It's a fact that millions grow old only to die financially broke.That's partly because we have allowed ourselves to be herded or have let crisis badger home the point that we have made ourselves sitting ducks to financial turmoil.
Tomorrow is another day!The rules may have been tweaked but you need to continue to stay on course to be your business's or family rainmaker.There is never a better time to wriggle through the fallen leaves , out of the winters of adversities and rein back to rainmaking.One of the most poorly practiced art in business and entrepreneurship today is the art of marketing.How do you stay in the game of making profits while everyone else is being cleaned out?

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Cally Rao

Financial Success Is Counting On Yourself

Why do so many people let their dreams crumble into dust?One of the biggest,hidden reasons is other people.Queer though it may sound-it's not our enemies,it's our friends and loved ones.If the ones we spend most time with are negative,cynical naysayers,constantly harping why we will fail,THEY are literally doing us in.A friend can tear us apart in more ways than several enemies.The one who never got a merit raise will give you all the reasons why hard , productive work won't get you anywhere.The guy who has never reached the top sales position or achieved a sales target will tell you not to bother because the management always sets the goals too high.The wage earner who never ran a business can give you 221 obstacles why you can never start your own enterprise.The truth is listening to just about anyone without being aware of their own tracks could be suicide.Listening could be habit forming and you could end being held hostage by fear or begin burying your head in the sand.

Without goals you get nowhere.No one got anywhere without defining their life goals.Your goals should never drop out of sight.Can a ship navigate without rudder?Has your calendar been invaded by financially dead excursions and diversions?Similarly you can have a great product or the best quality benchmarks yet unless you know how to take it to the world's markets you'd be doing what a certain tribe in the Artic does when their parents reach old age-they'd put them in a canoe on a water expanse with nothing else and abandon them to die!Stop huddling with the same cast of characters you have habitually come to lean on.Look at all your advertising pieces and ask,"What's the first thing that strikes peoples' eyes when they look at my product?".Acquire one special skill and you could reverse your cash flows for life.You don't need a PhD to do that or even a college education.Remember opportunity is self made.Winning stimulates winning,iron sharpens iron.Don't douse your dreams.Light your fires and take off on a newly ignited trajectory.


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Cally Rao

Losing Everything , Noose Or Opportunity ?

The Great Kobe Earthquake , 6.8 on the Richter scale hit the city of Kobe in January 1995 . It was the largest urban earthquake to hit Japan since 1923. Close to 6,000 died, many plummeting to their deaths from elevated highways and bridges . Forty thousand more were seriously injured .Over 55,000 homes crumpled and fell sprawled across streets. Severe damage and flash fires rendered another 55,000 homes incapable of salvage . Half a million more people were made homeless. Dazed survivors - newly- made orphans , widows , homeless , injured scurried for safety onto smoke-filled , buckled streets , huddled in blankets and in askance "Why us?" .
On our home front here the number of unemployed has crossed the 15-million figure of the Great Depression of the 1930s. Experts forecast that one in eight Americans may be without an income by year's end. Rising homelessness - more than 5.5 million families have lost their homes since the crisis kicked-in - and bankruptcies threaten to tear up even more of the fabric. Furthermore with plunging real estate values the equity in our homes is being evaporated before our very eyes.

Survivalists say sometime in the course of our lives, maybe weekly , we must sit back to .... imagine . IMAGINE losing everything of value to us - job termination , our home burnt to the ground with all of our possessions , creeping cancer or the death of a child. Why this dreary bit in the midst of all this ? The argument is that everything we have in our lives now though we have put together , toiled for and fought for maybe even inherited is not for keeps forever. We can't lock them up in our grasp for all of our days on earth .To get to feeling that we 'have it all' and need never worry nor be vigilant is folly! Neither can we 'lock in' our health or breathe of life or forecast and thwart the circumstances or the events ahead in our lives. Anyday any calamity may ride in or all of our assets are put to smoke . Our health could tumble from it's tower. This is not to suggest that you should tune out and go watch movies for the rest of the day or life or wait for a rapture of the holy ! It's instead the cry of the watchman., to be prepared for the worst , not be put to sleep or charmed by the good times and the parties now . It's to move towards changing your state of mind. No one should invite or need a catastrophe to feel what it is like to be homeless or drawing your last breath. But keeping yourself in razor sharp preparedness for sudden desolation , for the worst , will keep you in stock of rafts to keep afloat and live for another day while most everyone else is drowning. This continuos re-imagining the future , of dwelling constructively on the 'what if's' , what can totally go wrong etc etc scenarios will keep you on your toes and enable you to row to fresh shores after an earthquake or move on to new endeavours if you lost your job. There's no salvation in playing victim when you are visited or burying the head in sand or live obliviously now . Remember the sycamore ! The tree has amazing powers of regeneration. Even if you cut it all the way down to the ground , it will always grow back. Even if a small sycamore is completely covered over with sand, it will send out new branches and drill new roots to survive .As it's ability to grow back even under the harshest of conditions, the sycamore has a lesson for us - that no calamity is a noose .We need to pitch for our future now , not when it arrives , to be ready in a split second lest the future gets stolen . To your future ,

Preparation

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Cally Rao